The transition from being a friend to a friend with benefits can be murky at best. We’ve all been in a situation where we find one of our friends attractive, but we don’t want to ruin what is already there. So, what do we do? Do we hint to the fact that we’d like to hook up them sometime? Do we just bury our feelings and never explore the possibilities of what could be there? Or do we just flat out tell them that the possibility of being a FWB is not out of the question.
For guys, we rarely see a girl as a “friend”. We mainly want to transition that friendship into either a one-night-stand or into a relationship. The reason that a friends with benefits situation rarely comes up with a guy is because we rarely find a girl that is up for it. And when we do, the emotional balance of the previous relationship tends to fade away, leaving us in a hole of our own digging.
For a woman, this transition could be extremely easy. Simply telling the guy flat out that the offer is on the table is not only an extremely effective way of communicating this, but it is also rare, therefore great in the eyes of a guy. Leaving hints and clues for a guy is huge mistake. We tend to pick up on directness. If you’re thinking about engaging in a friends with benefits situation with a guy, just tell him that he could have that if he wanted it. Usually, he will not pass up the opportunity.
There are drawbacks to this however. If you’re friend is somebody that you’ve recently met, then exploring what could be might not be such an issue. But if you have know the guy for a couple of years, or even a lifetime, the friend relationship could easily become obsolete after a few choice nights.
For everybody, treading lightly with a friends with benefits situation is a must. They can definitely get messy on both ends. Ask yourself if you would like that friend to know you in that aspect. Many people do not feel comfortable with having a friend know them that intimately. When you bring sex into the mix of friendship, emotions can become misconstrued and expectations are always brought to a new level. Always be safe and communicate your feelings before taking this step
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